You deserve to be valued for everything you have to offer, to have meaningful and loving relationships with the people you care about and to create a life that is in alignment with your values and who you really are.
Or, at least a fraction of it anyhow.
I got fed up with pretending. I became interested in becoming fully self-expressed and started getting clear on who I was and what I truly wanted.
Through private coaching and group coaching programs, mindfulness meditation and reflective journaling, I have been able to discover who I really am and what makes me feel alive. Every day I devote energy and time to my self-discovery process and what life choices make me feel most fulfilled.
I am committed and honoured to help guide others through the same self-discovery process, getting them closer and closer to their true self. With a novel of juicy life experience, a Co-Active Coaching Fundamentals Certificate from the Coaches Training Institute (CTI) and two years of relationship, communication, productivity and leadership training with Landmark Worldwide, I am highly qualified to help you discover the real you and the wonder that comes along with unleashing your authenticity.
For a long time I was scared to be myself. I had a fear of looking stupid and being judged. I was your typical people-pleaser and I avoided confrontation and difficult conversations at all costs.
From the outside looking in, I was a "happy camper," and the "life of the party."
But this wasn't who I really was all of the time and what resulted from this pretending was a build up of resentment. I grew resentful of myself for not following what my I truly wanted for myself and resentment toward others for saying "yes" when I really wanted to say "no."
I would attempt to ease the pain with all sorts of things like over-eating, spending and other excessive habits that would fill the gaps for a while, but these habits just created more stress and self-sabotage. I couldn’t stand the thought of being rejected and I became depleted from always trying to please people.
So, what happened?
You are in a relationship that does not feel good.
You are stuck in a job that is draining you.
You are scared to take a leap or try new things.
You are resentful for saying yes when you really want to say no.
You are in regret from a decision you made in the past.
How can I help? I've been there.
I dated people I knew were not a fit for me and tried tirelessly to make these relationships work. At one point, it felt better being with someone rather than no one at all. I had the job that sucked the life right out of me. I have been paralyzed by perfectionism, taking zero action for the fear of being less than perfect. I have said "yes" when I meant "no" too many times to count and I have dealt with shame intimately.
So, what did I do?
I finally got up the nerve to talk to someone about it.
It couldn't just be anyone though, this person had to be a fit. In 2012 I hired my first coach, and it wasn't easy at first. I'm not going to sugar coat how it felt for me to ask for help after years of priding myself in being independent and strong. Asking for help would make me look weak, right? For 20 years of my life I thought I could handle the world on my shoulders, alone, without the guidance of anyone. My life motto had always been, "No, it's okay. I got this. Thanks for your help, but I can do it on my own. Thanks though!" This way of living brought me to exhaustion, resentment, and at times, isolation.
If you resonate with what I'm sharing with you, I'd love to speak with you.
Coaching is a method of powerful conversation that is typically accessed with a third-party person, outside of your immediate social and family circles.
It is a conversation that provides a pathway to higher thoughts and breakthroughs, making room for an entirely new way of living.